Let me poke some holes and ask some questions that don't necessarily need answers and see if it helps...?
Being tired is hard. High stress jobs pollute everything in life...
Generally speaking, every place we could live has issues. A lot of times the things we dislike in one place seem monumental and the issues in another place seem minor or quaint. "The grass is greener..." Quitting a job can reduce the issues in your current location or even make them disappear... commuting traffic, shopping hours, crowds, etc...
Financially, is the issue you can quit now and live in the LCOL area but not the HCOL area? I didn't see clearly the COL in either location. But we can throw some numbers out there...
In 4 years with your health insurance benefit, you pay $20/month. With a family of 4 on the ACA, maybe you pay $6k - $8k/year plus any care you use.
With income cut in half, taxes will be cut by 2/3. (More with no FICA taxes)
Is the HCOL area still high cost of living at that point?
What is it worth to get an extra $40k+/year every year for the rest of your life? (pension + 12k bonus)
Can you transfer to another job in the same agency?
Will a vacation help reduce short term stress to be less tired for the decision making process?
How do your wife and kids feel about the LCOL area?
Thanks for the quick reply, Jeremy.
"Quitting a job can reduce the issues in your current location or even make them disappear... commuting traffic, shopping hours, crowds, etc..."
You hit the nail on the head with this one. Those are all issues I just don't want to deal with anymore. Along with the politics & stresses of the job. For a more clear picture, I live in one of the outlying boroughs of Manhattan. A decent 3-bedroom house will cost approximately $900k+...
https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/3019-Corporal-Kennedy-St_Flushing_NY_11360_M31693-74295Property taxes in the City, depending on the school district, are anywhere from $8k-15k per year. If you try to escape to some of the suburban areas, the taxes get kicked up to around $15k-20k per year. Homes are a bit cheaper at around $600k-700k, but they increase the property taxes commensurately to keep up with the higher home prices in the City. Everything from groceries, to movie theaters, to gas is expensive as heck out here. We are looking at the suburbs of Tennessee. I guess my question to you would be do you think that would be a silly move? IE- forfeiting the full pension + bonus for a partial pension, OR would this loss of pension income be offset by selling the house & investing the money + relocating to a much cheaper cost of living location in the suburbs? I guess that is a hard prediction to make, because obviously no one knows what the market will do.
I also neglected to mention the NY State + City tax = about 10%, on top of Fed tax vs no State income tax in Tennessee. A comparable house in the areas of Tennessee that we’re looking at are approximately $200k, with $1500 property taxes per year. Right now in NYC, our income tax rate = 22% Fed tax + 6.5% State tax + 3.5% City tax. Also, like you said, no more FICA taxes in Tennessee either, if I were to retire early and go there.
In regards to the retiree health insurance vs. ACA insurance, I’m not really sure. I guess one big positive to stay in the area would be the ability to harvest capital gains up to the top of the 0% bracket and not worry about anything, unlike ACA? I guess the health insurance is a big positive to staying in the area….
“What is it worth to get an extra $40k+/year every year for the rest of your life? (pension + 12k bonus)”
This is my million dollar question… I’m having a hard time answering it!
There is stress, drama and politics in most places that I have heard in my agency. Finding a place free of this will probably be pretty hard to do…
A vacation might help. Maybe I’m just feeling a bit burnt out and a nice vacation in a cabin in the woods with my family might get my head back in place. I was actually looking into this earlier today with my wife.
My wife is open to leaving. She is also tired of the fast paced life and crowding, etc. I don’t think my 6 year old would mind too much, but the 9 year old….. I’m not sure how she’d feel about leaving her friends at this point.
Maybe I just need a nice vacation....?